We all have fear. Since my son was born, I no longer ride a motorcycle. My endorsement is still on my driver’s license, and sometimes I look at it with a bit of longing. But, it’s a choice I make. I don’t want my son to be raised without a mother – if I can help it – so I’m not riding. Not that I won’t be back when he’s old enough to take care of himself. My choice isn’t about my fears though.
Of course I do have fears . . . and one of them is heights. So when a group of friends wanted to do a zip, dip, and sip adventure for my birthday I had to really think about it. Let me explain. The zip was a zip line in the mountains – the longest zip line in the Pacific Northwest. The last zip was over 1/4 mile! The dip was white water river rafting – pictured above. The sip was wine tasting and live music at a vineyard.
You Know I Conquered My Fear
The picture gives it away that I committed to overcoming my fear of heights. Understand that I wasn’t always afraid of heights. I’ve been solo skydiving for Pete’s sake! I don’t know, somewhere along the way – maybe age, maybe kids, maybe too many years of putting Christmas lights on the house – I just got to the point where I didn’t like heights anymore. So, here I was, given the opportunity to share a great adventure with some fabulous women and I was hesitating. HESITATING! How could I be hesitating?!
Fear = Hesitation
Yes, fear will make us hesitate. Worse, it can make us miss out on wonderful moments that we may never have the opportunity to experience again. And, that is what made me say “yes”. I don’t want to look back and wish I had done something special. I don’t want to let fear beat me into submission. I don’t want fear to win. So, I said, “let’s do it”.
Know that everyone knew I was afraid. So, first zip line up – they jokingly pushed me forward to go first. No time like the present. Heck, I could probably have touched the ground if I was too scared – it was kinda a “bunny hill” for zip line practice. So, I stepped up and was first. Getting to name ourselves with each zip, I went with Krazy Kellie, and jumped off – heart pounding, hands sweating, entire body shaking, and legs so wobbly when I stopped that I almost couldn’t stand. But, I did it and I made it. My fear wasn’t gone though.
Practice Beating Fear
Each zip got easier and easier – while also getting higher and higher as well as longer and longer. The platforms in the trees were scary all by themselves, let alone, stepping off of them and hoping I wouldn’t die! But that’s how we beat back our fears. We practice and we overcome! We have to take the first leap and then every leap gets easier. Standing still won’t move us forward. Hey, move forward on a zip line and you go fast! 🙂
That final zip line was amazing. There were beautiful views of the entire Rogue Valley. I felt like a bird flying. Until they stopped me before the end and I had to hang there, mid-air, while the group sang Happy Birthday. So very sweet – so very scary. But, I’m so thankful I didn’t miss that moment. Especially because I was afraid – fear can stop us, but only if we let it.
Fear Holding You Back?
My tip to you today is to use positive affirmations to help you past fear. The one I used for ziplining . . . I move forward, feeling self confident every step of the way. Give it a try. Don’t miss out on life because of fear.
So, what’s holding you back? Tell me about it here.
P.S. My final zip line name, given to me by the guides . . . ROCK STAR!